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How to Date a Mormon. Don't worry if you're unsure about how to date someone who grows up in the Mormon faith. Having questions about someone's religion. I'm Mormon, 20 years old at BYU-I, and I've not had any girl flirt with me, or at 5) Find ways to always meet him somewhere "accidentally". Don't Sit or Stand Next to a Guy First or Flirt First; Wait at Least Four Hours Yourself Invisible and Other Ways to Get Out of Instant Messaging.
Music and dancing have long been popular with church members, and if you're in an area that has Mormon chapels nearby, you are likely to find regular dances held usually in the cultural hall of the chapel for teens, young adults, and single adults older than Music at the dances can be either from a live band or a DJ, and there will usually be some sort of snacks or refreshments available. The dances are free, there's no alcohol, and as is consistent with church policy people are asked to avoid suggestive dance moves and to dress modestly.
Mormons also love to go to movies, play sports several well-known professional athletes are LDS, including former NFL quarterback Ty Detmer and major baseball player Jeff Kentplay jokes on each other, go camping, do service projects, swim at the beach, snow ski, picnic, you name it.
Education is emphasized in the church, so you might find your LDS friends interested in politics, business, finance, good books and other things that draw their interest.
Many LDS guys and girls will want to marry in a Mormon temple. So Mormon singles of all ages will view prospective dates with the question as to whether they could marry that person. Mormon guys will often want to put off serious dating as in, getting engaged and marrying until they have completed a two-year mission, and possibly until they've finished college.
They'll certainly date before then, but if an LDS guy or girl has his or her heart set on serving a mission, they will not want anything to prevent them from doing that. A strong belief in the church is to save intimacy for marriage. Family life is very important to church members, and when a Mormon guy is ready to settle down, he will likely look for a partner who will honor his desire to save that part of the relationship for marriage.
She seems to be ok with that, and wants to continue our relationship, and also talks about wanting marriage and children, and raising those children to be mormon like her even if I'm not religious. During "Netflix and chill" the other night, I noticed there was a documentary about mormons. She said we couldn't watch it because the lady who produced the doc was formerly a professor at BYU but has since left the church, so she wouldn't have anything good to say. She suggested instead watching something that was produced by the church itself.
That conversation prompted me to find and read through this sub, and there's some seriously disturbing shit here. It seems like mormons in particular are even more crazy than the majority of crazy religious people, and the manipulation and treatment of people who wish to think for themselves and challenge their beliefs is really frightening.
As ex-mormons, can anyone here offer some insight about this girl, her religion, and what exactly I may be getting myself into if I continue dating her? I don't really care if she's religious or not, unless she brings it up all the time or tries to convert me.
Lots of really thorough replies. Thanks so much for the links. I'll definitely talk with her about my concerns, and will be spending time with her family over the upcoming holidays so that will be a good chance to see how they treat me. She's told me the church is one of the most important things to her, but from what I've researched already there's no way I would subject my future children to this culture.
That will most likely be the deal breaker for her. Sadly, the general consensus of "convert or nope out" sounds like what will end up happening. I'm really glad to hear a few of you have stories of happy interfaith relationships, or leaving the church together, so there's always a chance.
I'll bring up some CES letter issues, let her know why I wouldn't want my children raised like this, and we'll see what happens. Thanks so much for all the time you've put into your replies. It's been really helpful already. Thanks again for the continued comments and replies to my edit.
You've all been so helpful. Yes; I suppose if each of us believe the other is brainwashed, there's going to be major problems later on. And also I thought it was weird she wore some kind of pants that come to her knees under her other pants, but I never asked about that. It's winter here and I figured she was layering for warmth! There are women who swear by The Rules.
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Others who laugh it off and mock it. There are men who doubt its existence. Others who are oblivious to them. Men who despise them. And then there are the Southern women who just call it common sense.What Mormon Girls Find Attractive in Guys - iMormon
I can see the arguments from both sides. But lately I have wondered if The Rules really work for Mormon women in a singles ward? In my mid-singles ward there is a consistent 3: Three women for every man.
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Three beautiful and talented women for every single man. And not all of those men are looking to date. Plain and simple, it can feel like a competition to get the attention of the good guys and get a date. The women feel like they have no choice but to be proactive, invite the guys over, flaunt what they got, and make sure they are noticed and remembered. All of this goes against the teachings of The Rules. Do The Rules apply or work for women in a singles ward where the ratio of women to men can be staggeringly not in their favor?
Where just getting to talk in the hallway to a man can feel like a weekly competition? And Sunday dinners and taking a plate of brownies over to a guy you like is an expected commonplace occurrence? Or is it possible that The Rules are what we need to help spur more dating, and less hanging out and waiting for something better to come along? In my current ward we have about people attending on an average Sunday. With 5 Sunday School classes, an overflowing sacrament meeting, 2 Relief Societies, and 2 Elders Quorums, it can feel like an Olympic event just to find your best friend to sit with.